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Heather Vale is a writer, interviewer and journalist known as The Unwrapper™. For more than 20 years she has worked in all media: TV, radio, print and online. She write primarily about business and personal development, and believes that failures are simply stepping stones on the way to success.

Abraham-Hicks on Law of Attraction (Part 2)

Abraham-Hicks is a pioneer in Law of Attraction teachings… a co-production, if you will, between Esther and Jerry Hicks and a spiritual being known as Abraham.

It was Abraham-Hicks teachings that originally inspired The Secret, and Esther Hicks was a prominent figure in the original edit of the movie.

In this video, the second of 5 parts, Abraham-Hicks talks about the Law of Attraction.

Abraham, Source Energy interpreted by Esther Hicks, delivers a 5-part introduction to their teachings on The Law of Attraction at a February, 2008 Abraham-Hicks Workshop. The complete presentation runs 40 minutes.

Esther & Jerry Hicks are the authors of numerous books based on the Teachings of Abraham and their latest book, “Money and The Law of Attraction”, reached #1 on the New York Times bestseller list.

For over 20 years, Esther has translated blocks of thought from “Non-Physical Source Energy” – which she also identifies as her “Inner Being” or “Soul” – and who refer to themselves in the plural as “Abraham” (no relation to the Biblical figure).

Esther doesn’t use the word “channeling” to describe her process, but understands if others do.

Abraham-Hicks on Law of Attraction (Part 1)

Abraham-Hicks is a pioneer in Law of Attraction teachings… a co-production, if you will, between Esther and Jerry Hicks and a spiritual being known as Abraham.

It was Abraham-Hicks teachings that originally inspired The Secret, and Esther Hicks was a prominent figure in the original edit of the movie.

In this video, the first of 5 parts, Abraham-Hicks talks about the Law of Attraction.

Abraham, Source Energy interpreted by Esther Hicks, delivers a 5-part introduction to their teachings on The Law of Attraction at a February, 2008 Abraham-Hicks Workshop. The complete presentation runs 40 minutes.

Esther & Jerry Hicks are the authors of numerous books based on the Teachings of Abraham and their latest book, “Money and The Law of Attraction”, reached #1 on the New York Times bestseller list.

For over 20 years, Esther has translated blocks of thought from “Non-Physical Source Energy” – which she also identifies as her “Inner Being” or “Soul” – and who refer to themselves in the plural as “Abraham” (no relation to the Biblical figure).

Esther doesn’t use the word “channeling” to describe her process, but understands if others do.

How to Use Attraction Every Day

For five years I lived in a small town in Oregon, which happened to be just down the road from a world-renowned spiritual center. The Life of Learning Foundation, spearheaded by Guy Finley, was a wonderful place to visit.

While his teachings often required close attention and some amount of pondering to fully understand, it was worth the effort and he shared his wisdom freely several times a week.

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Here’s his take on the Law of Attraction and how to deal with “negative” experiences (it’s all a matter of perspective)…

Question: If, by the laws of attraction, everything from feathered creatures to heavenly forces has a specific essence that draws to it those elements that are like itself, how do we put the understanding of that law into practice in our everyday lives in order to realize a higher life?

Answer: If we can see how positive inner states lead to positive life experiences, then we can also see that negative inner states must attract negative results. Shedding light on this dark cycle will help us bring an end to it as a source of self-compromise.

Suppose someone walks into your office and drops the bomb that your company has unannounced plans to lay off several employees, and that no one knows who these unfortunates are going to be. Without higher principles to meet this unexpected moment, the fear would surely take control of you and the moment. In no time, you would be the victim of your own self-compromising plans for revenge on an insensitive company, or some such enemy.

Of course, at first glance, feeling scared and getting angry in an event like this seems like it makes sense. But a closer look clearly shows how it betrays. We can’t have fear without anxiety. Anxiety can’t exist without unconsciously comparing what we hoped would happen, to our new fears that it won’t. And connected to this spreading fear our expectations won’t be realized is our growing resentment of the situation, or person, we blame for wiping out our hoped-for happiness. So bitterness spreads. And as it does, it whispers to us that since we’ve already lost our future, why should we do anything more, for anyone, in the present? Now defiance has the reins, and in no time, self-righteous anger courses through our veins.

It’s impossible to have one sad or sour state without another. But there’s still much for us to see. Negativity, like all forms of thought, is actually physical in nature. All things physical, all forms of matter, have mass. And any mass in motion has momentum. Now, with these facts in mind, let’s go back into our illustrative story and see what the momentum of this negative state has to ultimately attract.

So now the boss walks into your office — or you see him at lunch — and he asks you to do some extra work. But with the feeling of being betrayed still fresh in your heart, you can’t help but meet him and his request with a full-blown negative state. The impression you make on him is indelible. Later on, at a time unknown to you, this same superior starts to review who he’s going to keep on and who to let go. And he chooses to release you. Why? Because among other items weighted in his decision process, he recalls your barely masked aggression and obvious resistance to his request.

We can turn the tables on these troubles by employing what we understand about the power of attraction. So, let’s start the story over and put ourselves in the place of this formerly self-punishing person. In our new scenario we receive the same bad news. But this time, the first thing we do — instead of falling into fear — is become aware of it as it tries to pull us down. Why this action? Because we know we can’t have one fear without another. We work very hard to stay inwardly awake to its punishing presence in our psychic system.

We mustn’t try to make this negative inner-state — or our situation within it — do anything. We must do nothing but remain right there, aware of our fears and worries, but doing nothing about them. Never mind what rioting thoughts want us to consider as solutions to our sinking situation. Going inwardly alert, but silent, is all that’s really within our power — at the moment. Any other action would be fear’s. And we already know what happens to us when we assume this mistaken psychological position. That’s not the way for us any more. We want something higher. We take ourselves out of the tough spot we’re in by not letting anxiety or worry dictate the terms of our future actions. We take the only step we can that’s clearly not a part of the fear we feel. In a way, it could be said that we take the right step by not taking the wrong one. The real point here, and we must experience the miracle of it for ourselves, is that the next step will come.

Our success in separating ourselves from the forces that compromise us is as much under law as are the ones that have always left us in the lurch. Everything we need for this new inner success must reveal itself if we’ll just wait for its arrival. Truth always fulfills its promise if we cooperate with the wisdom of its ways. Now let’s return once more to our psychological story and see how our new understanding attracts a new and brighter outcome.

So there we are, facing the bad news — but also resolutely facing our fears at the same time. Since we now know there’s really nothing else we can do at the moment that isn’t on fear’s terms, we just go back to our business as usual. We do our work. Only now we’re active outwardly and inwardly.

We listen neither to the clamoring of those around us — about the impending doom — nor do we heed the shouts from our own mind hammering our inner ears. If we do this, to the best of our ability, one of two things has to occur. And both results are excellent. Both are success.

Now when we run into the boss or he asks us to do some work — above and beyond our usual job — we just do it. No complaints. No resentment. We’re not going to dothat to ourselves anymore. We know better than to be bitter! And the boss notices our effort to be the right kind of person. It’s natural that he’s attracted to the rightness in our attitude. And when that crucial time arrives for personnel evaluation, to see who stays and who goes, we get the nod to stay. Why? Because our new attitude won for us what we had feared to lose.

And even if this part of the story doesn’t happen in quite the way it’s been written, we’ve still won a major victory. Why? Because any time we turn our backs on what frightens us, we also turn our backs on the self-compromising acts those fear-filled conditions attract. Instead, in the absence of fear and self-compromise, we attract what is fearless, which is the same as saying we attract the next higher level of life.

Read more from Guy at GuyFinley.org.

Control Your Own Success

One of my favorite personal development teachers is Jack Canfield, who appeared in The Secret and co-created the wildly successful Chicken Soup for the Soul book series.

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I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing Jack, and I know many people who call him a friend. One of my favorite formulas of his is one that I use and quote on a regular basis.

It’s a solid reminder that while we can’t control what happens outside of ourselves, we can certainly control how we respond to it… and that one simple decision affects the results we get.

Here it is in Jack’s own words:

What prevents you from achieving the success you want?

Is it a lack of money, free time, or opportunities at work? Have you not achieved your goals because of the economy, what your business colleagues have done (or not done), or the lack of motivation among your employees? Perhaps you place the blame on how you were raised or on your family for not giving you the proper amount and type of support.

If you responded to my question with a laundry list of reasons why you aren’t where you want to be, you’re not alone. Most people automatically find excuses and blame others when things don’t work out the way they want. This seems to be particularly true in the United States, where many people buy into the myth that we are entitled to success and happiness – that someone else should be giving us what we want.

However, if unlimited success is your goal, looking outside of yourself is a strategic error. The most important lesson you must understand that you are 100 percent responsible for your life – the good and the bad.

The formula I like to use to explain this concept is:

E + R = O (Events + Responses = Outcome)

The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life (whether it’s success or failure, wealth or poverty, wellness or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event in your life. Likewise, if you want to change the results you get in the future, you must change how you respond to events in your life … starting today.

What Most People Do

When people don’t like the outcomes they are experiencing, most choose to blame the event (E) for their lack of results (O).

In other words, you can blame the economy, the weather, the lack of money, lack of education, racism, gender bias, the current administration in Washington, your wife or husband, your boss’s attitude, the lack of support, and so on. If you’re a golfer, you’ve probably even blamed your clubs or the course you’ve played on – but never yourself. This is what most people do.

It’s true that these factors exist and that they impact you. However, if they were the deciding factor in whether someone succeeded or not, nobody would ever succeed. For every reason it’s not possible, there are hundreds of people who have faced the same circumstances and succeeded.

The deciding factor in success is not the external conditions and circumstances. It’s how you choose to respond (R).

Read the full story at JackCanfield.com.

Positive and Negative: a Matter of Perspective

I’m going to make a very controversial statement here:

Positive is not “good”.

Negative is not “bad”.

negative-batteryA battery needs both a positive and a negative end to work… neither one is better or worse than the other.

A magnet needs both a positive and a negative pole to work… neither one is better or worse than the other.

Much of life on the planet procreates through a process that requires both a positive (male) and a negative (female) component. And no, that doesn’t make men “good” and women “bad”. Neither one is better or worse than the other.

So why do we humans insist on calling positive “good” and negative “bad”?

Well, it’s likely because of the feelings we have when we call something positive or negative. We label something “positive” when it makes us happy and “negative” when it makes us angry or sad.

But ultimately, it’s all a matter of perspective.

For example, when you lose a job, is that a positive or negative experience? Well, if you were counting on that job for income and don’t have the confidence to go out and do something even better, you’ll probably think it was negative. So if you dwell on the downside — “Poor me, why does this always happen to me, I’m a victim” and so on — we call that negative thinking.

However, if you look at the bright side — “Awesome, now I can spend more time with loved ones and start that home-based business I’ve been wanting to” — then we say you’re a positive thinker.

The reality is, there are always both sides. There are pros and cons, ups and downs, pluses and minuses to everything. It’s called yin and yang.

So instead of just seeing one side or the other, why not take stock of all aspects of a situation? Acknowledge how it benefits you and how it doesn’t.

The immediate benefit is that you neutralize the emotions that surround a circumstance. So now you can more logically and sanely approach attracting what you want to attract, whether it’s another job, your own business, or a vacation from working.

And then you’ll find you don’t keep experiencing extreme highs and lows, because suddenly you’re seeing things from a more balanced perspective.

When the Law of Attraction “Doesn’t Work”

law-of-attractionYou know that feeling you get sometimes that the Law of Attraction just “isn’t working” for you?

You SAY you want to have more money… and yet you’re broke. You SAY you want to be a speaker, or an author, or some kind of superstar in your business life… although you haven’t really been able to create or do anything that others will pay for. You SAY you want to have more fulfilling relationships… but you’re going through a divorce.

So… that means the law isn’t a law, right? Because it only works sometimes… and it doesn’t work for you… so it’s actually probably either highly selective or a big pile of BS?

Well, no. Unfortunately, whether you choose to believe it or not, you do attract into your life things that match your vibrational frequency — things that you think about and things that you have intense emotion around, one way or another. Yeah… positive or negative. Doesn’t matter. The Law of Attraction doesn’t judge (fortunately or unfortunately).

When you first learned about Law of Attraction, perhaps you felt excited about what this could mean for you, and you just had to know more. Then the bloom kind of left the rose when you learned that you’re already using it, because it’s a law of the Universe, like gravity is a law on our planet.

Perhaps your original hope was that you’d learn tools or tricks; in other words, you’d learn how to easily use this Law to easily change your life. Perhaps you didn’t expect that to use the Law deliberately in your favor, you’d have to change, as well; and that was uncomfortable for you. It may have felt uncomfortable to learn that if you observed your experiences and linked them to your feeling-based thoughts, past or present, and your thoughts to specific and even seemingly unrelated events, you’d see how you use Law of Attraction all the time, how you affect your experiences all the time.

Maybe you felt or feel about this as you do a car: you just want to drive it, not understand the mechanics of how and why it works. In some respects about this, you are completely right: you can know how it works or not-it will still work, but you BELIEVE a car will work… as long as everything required is in place. Everything IS in place regarding Law of Attraction, except, perhaps, your willingness to adjust in ways that make it work in your favor.

Read the full story and discover some valuable LOA tips at the Learning Law blog.

Feel and Grow Rich

People like to talk about positive thinking… how to Think and Grow Rich… and how your thoughts become things.

Many have written off the Law of Attraction, and movies like The Secret which promoted the concept, as being about attracting what you think about.

And while it’s much easier to get your head around the concept of thoughts, in fact it’s only a small part of the story.

You attract based on your feelings — and your thoughts might kick a feeling into action, but it’s the resulting feeling that’s really at play.

Imagine that you went around thinking a positive thought like “I am rich and successful!”

But you’re not an idiot. You don’t blindly accept everything that’s fed into your brain. Your subconscious mind knows whether you believe this to be true or not — and while you might logically be able to make a case for why it is true (we are all rich in some area of life, and successful at doing something), the immediate reaction is doubt. And that causes a feeling of sadness or frustration or anger or depression.

So in this scenario, what you would end up attracting would be more sadness, more frustration, more anger or more depression — not more riches or success.

This is why affirmations often fail — you’re thinking something positive, but feeling something negative, and the feeling wins out. Sorry… it always does.

So positive thinking is not the complete answer.

Napoleon Hill

Napoleon Hill talked about the power of thoughts in his classic book Think and Grow Rich. But he also spoke about the power of feelings.

“There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it. – Napoleon Hill

A “burning desire” is definitely a feeling — a driving force — not just a thought.

And while the title Think and Grow Rich was masterful marketing — everyone wants a quick solution, and what’s easier than thinking? — it’s simply not the entire equation. That’s why he wrote a whole book and not just the single phrase!

So from now on, if you want to use affirmations or other self-development tools, concentrate on those that make you FEEL good.

A progression often works well, such as “I’m getting smarter and more successful every day,” or taking a step back from the result, such as “I have the skills to attract money.”

We’ll talk more about these concepts on this site on a daily basis.

For now, just remember to FEEL and Grow Rich! 🙂

Resolution? Or Something Better?

It’s New Year’s Eve, and traditionally people around the world make resolutions. Those resolutions usually fall flat about two weeks into the year, making them kind of a laughable concept.

The first problem is that people are creatures of habit — it takes time to change a bad habit into a good one. Some people say it takes 21 days, some say 28. Others say there’s no magic number. But consistent action is always required.

The second problem is that “resolution” implies fighting or working hard at something — having resolve — and “hard” or “fight” are words that cause us to resist. Human beings like things easy, not hard. So if you’re trying to change something and you subconsciously admit right up front that it’s “hard,” you’re setting yourself up for failure.

10 top new year resolutionsThe third problem is that people tend to make very general resolutions. They’re not even remotely specific in time or space. For example, a typical resolution is to “go to the gym more,” “spend more time with family,” or “make more money.” How much? How often? What is involved in that? Ah, who cares, it won’t matter in two weeks anyhow!

The fourth problem is that resolutions often focus on NOT doing something rather than doing something… on giving up rather than getting or receiving. People resolve to “stop smoking,” “quit drinking,” or “lose weight.” But those words — stop, quit, lose — automatically put a distasteful spin on the whole thing.

So instead of making a resolution, why not set an intention — fueled by your dreams and inspirations for the coming year? Visualize yourself rolling in that money you intend to make or enjoying food because your taste buds are no longer ruined by smoke. Picture yourself trying on beautiful clothes that fit well because you are toned and slender.

No, you don’t have to put numbers or parameters around them unless that makes you feel good. If saying “20 pounds” or “$100,000” causes you doubt, don’t worry about the figures… just focus on the final result. However, if you’re driven by numbers and they inspire you, go ahead and decide how much is involved.

In a way, this is all just semantics. But subconsciously, words are definitely important.

So for this year, make a resolution that’s not a resolution. And that “non-resolution” is to call them visions, dreams, intentions, inspirations, agreements, or whatever word works for you and makes you feel good.

The way the Law of Attraction works, you’ll bring more of what you feel good about… so this year, you’ll be taking the first step towards success just from the words you use.

Happy New Year!

Positive Thinking Won’t Fix Your Fence

If you’ve been told that you need to think positive, or decided yourself that you were too negative, chances are you’ve fallen into the trap of denial-based positive thinking.

There’s positive thinking that allows you to see the bright side of life… the pros as well as the cons… the silver lining in the cloud. It’s actually yin-yang thinking, and being realistic about life.

Then there’s positive thinking that tries to avoid negativity at all costs.

Since many people find it easier to think negative — to complain, to worry, to fret, to act like a victim — then it’s OK if you want to try thinking more positively for awhile. As long as it makes you feel good, and not resentful (which will cause the whole thing to backfire), it can be very effective.

The problem comes when you try to constantly think positive. When you think you need to do it. All. The. Time.

At that point, it’s like being in denial. It’s no longer about looking for the silver lining in the cloud, but about denying the cloud exists and only seeing the silver.

Old fenceI like to compare it to having a broken, rotten fence… and just slapping a brand new coat of bright white paint on it.

“Woo-hoo, I’m so positive… see how great my fence looks with all that nice, shiny white paint on it!” your subconscious shouts. “I love my wonderful fence!”

And yet, unfortunately you haven’t fixed the fence. You’ve made it look nice and “positive” — temporarily — but you haven’t addressed the core issue.

The fence is still rotten to the core.

So eventually you will lean on the fence and it will come crashing to the ground… or your dog or child will push against it and suddenly be running loose around the neighborhood.

It may be more work to actually fix the fence — just like it’s more painful to address the issues that are causing you anger or sadness — but denying the negative side just pushes it all down until it explodes, or crashes down, in an unhealthy way.

The next time you admonish yourself for not thinking positive enough, stop and ask if that’s really the problem.

Listen to your heart and soul for the answer.

You might just find that dealing with the “negative” is a far better approach than just focusing on the “positive”.

And that way you can see the silver lining in your clouds — not just the clouds, and not just the silver.