You may have heard people say “Don’t should on yourself” or “Don’t let others should on you.” Ha ha… yeah, cute, right? But the point is that we often do things based on what others want us to do, or a feeling of obligation rather than desire.
Elle Luna suggests making a slight shift, saying “This is a story about two roads—Should and Must. It’s a pep talk for anyone who’s chosen Should for far too long—months, years, maybe a lifetime—and feels like it’s about time they gave Must a shot.”
There are two paths in life: Should and Must. We arrive at this crossroads over and over again. And each time, we get to choose.
Over the past year I’ve chosen Must again and again. And it was petrifying. And at times it was dark. But I would never, ever, trade this past year for anything. This essay is my three biggest takeaways from the experience. It’s for anyone who is thinking of making the jump from Should to Must. Anyone looking to follow the energy deep within their chest but aren’t quite sure how.
Should is how others want us to show up in the world?—?how we’re supposed to think, what we ought to say, what we should or shouldn’t do. It’s the vast array of expectations that others layer upon us. When we choose Should the journey is smooth, the risk is small.
Must is different—there aren’t options and we don’t have a choice.
Must is who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self. It’s our instincts, our cravings and longings, the things and places and ideas we burn for, the intuition that swells up from somewhere deep inside of us. Must is what happens when we stop conforming to other people’s ideals and start connecting to our own. Because when we choose Must, we are no longer looking for inspiration out there. Instead, we are listening to our calling from within, from some luminous, mysterious place.
Read the full story at Medium.com.